What is a Parenting Plan and what should it include?

By Meryn Steeves

When separating, figuring out a parenting schedule can feel overwhelming - not just who the kids spend time with, but how you make decisions together. That’s why a Parenting Plan is often more helpful than vague agreements or court orders. It’s a detailed written roadmap that outlines how you’ll co-parent, communicate, and resolve conflicts - all focused on what’s best for your children.

Here’s why every Ontario parent should consider one (even if court isn't involved) and what a solid Parenting Plan should include — based on the AFCC-O guide and template.

Why You Want One — Even If Court Doesn’t Order It

  • It’s child-centered from the start: The AFCC-O emphasizes that parenting plans are grounded in research: consistency, minimizing conflict, and encouraging strong relationships with both parents will help your child through a separation of their parents.

  • It helps avoid litigation: A well-drafted plan can cover foreseeable issues, reducing surprises and trips back to court.

Key Sections Every Parenting Plan Should Include

1. Family Background

  • Child’s name(s), birthdate(s), and confirmation that this is a parenting plan intended to have legal effect.

2. Philosophy & Shared Values

  • A short section that sets the tone: “We agree to co-operate, protect the children from conflict, and support their relationship with both parents.”

3. Parenting Schedule

  • Age-appropriate time-sharing (e.g., 2-2-3 or week-on/week-off routines)

  • Holiday, school break, summer, and special day rotations

4. Decision-Making Authority

5. Everyday Communication

  • How: email, text, shared calendar, co-—parenting app (we recommend AppClose, Talking Parents or Our Family Wizard)?

  • When: frequency, response timelines, and urgency.

  • What to share: upcoming appointments, school progress, extracurricular needs, etc.

6. Dispute Resolution

  • Include a process to address life changes

  • What you’ll do if you can’t agree: mediation, parent coordination, or involving a mediator (before going to court).

7. Special Circumstances

  • Parenting through illness, mental health issues, special needs, relocations, travel, death of a parent, etc.

8. Signing Details

  • Signatures of both parents, dated, and witnessed.

  • Both parents should receive Independent Legal Advice from a Family Lawyer before signing.

Final Checklist

  • Is it clear and child-focused?

  • Have you included daily routines, holidays, big decisions, and conflict-resolution?

  • Does it include a plan for future reviews and changes?

  • Can it be made into a court order if needed?

Need Help?

Writing a Parenting Plan doesn’t have to be overwhelming — but it does help to have a lawyer involved so you can know your rights and ensure it will be enforceable. At Passageway Law, we use AFCC-O best practices to draft solid parenting plans that give your family a stable roadmap - while anticipating and reducing future conflict. Contact us today to speak with a family lawyer.

Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. For a plan tailored to your family's situation, speak to a family lawyer.

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